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06/02/2009

The 2009 Summer Intentional Challenge

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It’s Time for Change

I like taking summer time and creating a challenge for myself. I use that time to focus on something in my life that I want to change or learn about. Each summer is unique and I haven’t always done a challenge, but most of the last 5 summers I have done something.

In 2006, I was working on letting myself rest more (I’m not always so great at that) so I set some goals for time off and vacation with my family (non-working vacation that is). We were able to take our first ever 2 week vacation at the beach which was fabulous. I also curbed my work time to more reasonable hours and days of the week.

In 2005, I spent the summer listening and reading everything I could get a hold of from on of my favorite authors, Dallas Willard.  I learned so much that summer; it changed my life. To this day, Elise and I can point to that summer as a changing point in our lives and our relationship. I owe Dallas big.

Last summer, I spent most of my time managing a new structure at Kanon Construction. We had new faces, new staff roles, and new systems we were putting in place. We also had two key employees leave in the midst of this change that added to the focus I needed to place on the business. It was a season of change and a time to focus on the business.

A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words

Here’s a picture of me on May 17, 2005. Greg Rittler 2005

Here’s a picture of me today:Greg Rittler

Notice anything different?

It’s called 46 lbs! In 2005, I weighed somewhere around 200lbs.  4 years and 13 days later I weigh 247.6. That shirt actually fit me in 2005 instead of looking like I borrowed a t shirt from Caleb.

The Nature of Problems

One of the interesting things about problems in general and weight gain in particular is that no one wakes up and says “I can’t wait to pack on a few more pounds during the next week.” Just like no one wakes up and says “I want to struggle with my marriage [relationships, job, family, etc.].” No one wants to struggle with the problems in their lives, but everyone does.

M. Scott Peck told a story that I read when I was 18 years old that still lives in me to this day:

“The parking brake was stuck on a patient’s car, and she knew that there was something one could do under the dashboard to release it, but she didn’t know what. I lay down on the floor below the front seat of her car. Then I took the time to make myself comfortable. Once I was comfortable, I then took the time to look at the situation. I looked for several minutes. At first all I saw was a confusing jumble of wires and tubes and rods, whose meaning I did not know. But gradually, in no hurry, I was able to focus my sight on the brake apparatus and trace its course. And then it became clear to me that there was a little latch preventing the brake from being released. I slowly studied this latch until it became clear to me that if I were to push it upward with the tip of my finger it would move easily and would release the brake. And so I did this. One single motion, one ounce of pressure from a fingertip, and the problem was solved. I was a master mechanic!”

Peck’s point was that we need to take the time to look at our problems if we are going to find a solution. He had never been someone mechanically inclined and didn’t understand cars or emergency brake systems. But he found that when he looked at this problem he was able grasp it and do something about it.

Dallas Willard on Change

Dallas has a simple but important acronym about change that is instrumental in personal growth: VIM.

  • Vision
  • Intention
  • Means

Vision is a picture of the future that you want to make a reality. Intention is a decision to make the changes needed. Means are the tactical ways that you are going to implement the change.

Individually, each of these parts won’t change your life. Together they make a huge difference.

The Challenge

So the 2009 Summer Intentional Challenge is to return to my previous weight of 200lbs. That’s the vision. That’s the picture of the future that is different then today.

The intention is the decision to make it a a reality and a commitment to it. I wouldn’t be writing this today if I hadn’t made that choice.

Now as far as means…

Means

Means are all about action (or inaction if that is what it takes). In the case of losing the weight there is no secret to weight loss. Burn more than you consume and you will lose weight.

I already work out 4-6 times per week. Most of that is running but for most of the past 18 months I have also been training with my friend, Pat March, at Xcel Fit. In terms of exercise, I can tweak some things but for the most part I’m probably doing what I need to.

The bulk of the change that I need to make to conquer this challenge is going to be on the intake end of things. I need to create a calorie deficit of at least 1000 calories per day. I burn about 3000 calories per day on average so I will need to reduce my intake of calories to about 2000 on average.

Here are a few of the means that I plan on using to get there:

  • “Go to Foods”. I have a bunch of foods that I love that I am going to keep close by to eat when I am  feeling hungry in between meals (nuts, granola, yogurt, etc.).
  • I need to consistently eat breakfast. This has been a lifelong struggle that I need to beat (coupled with not eating late).
  • Track what I am eating religiously. I am using myfitnesspal.com to track my calorie intake religiously. It has a very comprehensive calorie counter and calculates how much you are burning in terms of exercise.
  • Planning the menu early. I am setting up my menu for the day BEFORE I start in the morning so I know what I will be eating and make sure that it fits into my plan.
  • Conscious about fluids. I’m going to be more conscious of what I am drinking (more water, less beer and soda)
  • Tell people about it. I am telling all of YOU about what I am doing. Having people know your goals and ask you about them can help you stay on track.
  • Put routines in place that will remind me of my goal. I am putting a chart up on the side of the blog to keep track of my weight. Check in and see how I am doing.
  • Be consistent. I am going to make sure I get my workouts in each week and don’t skip.

Moving Forward,

Greg

05/25/2009

Childhood, Adulthood, and Everything in Between

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I’m sitting on the dock at the lake. My nine year old daughter, Riley, and my 6 year old son, Seth, are kayaking in front of me in the high grass where the earth and water meet each other. They splash each other and their cousin, Emmet, who paddles next to them. Its an idyllic moment.

In the meantime, at the end of the dock, there are another dozen kids readying to go on an adventure in a boat. They banter back and forth as they wait for another cousin to run down from the house and get on board.

On the south side of the dock, there are 6 kids dipping in the cool lake while the warm sun shines on them. They play king of the mountain on a tube and see who can push the others off. They splash incessantly and let out yelps of joy each time one of them falls in. They are innocent and uninhibited.

Time stands still.

The boat engine breaks the sound of the waves lapping against the dock. The teenage kids pull away from the dock slowly. They turn the boat with skill and disappear around the bend. With no adults to hold them back their adventure is underway.

Five minutes later the kayakers are in the water swimming off the end of the dock. They do cannonballs and belly flops laughing at the sheer joy of jumping into the water. Their friends are here with them and they could swim and play for hours without a care in the world. Every once in a while a shivering kid runs by on his way to or from the shore.

Time stands still.

The adults meander down to the dock and back. Sitting for a while and talking. Reading and soaking in rays of sun. Drinking tea or coke or sipping a glass of wine or beer. They stop for a light lunch of sandwiches and chips. Then return to the the dock or sit on a boat or relax in chairs by the shore.

We share smalltalk with our neighbors and enjoy the peaceful setting together. We are just being.

Earth, sun, water, clouds. People. All together for this moment. It’s just a moment.

Time stands still.

I flash back to first time my oldest child, Caleb, ever swam in this lake. It seems strangely like a lifetime ago and yet also like a blink of an eye. I remember my own first days swimming in the lake and exploring it’s depths. Wading in shallow water looking for fish or casting a rod toward a promising hole.

That does seem like a lifetime ago.

Time doesn’t stand still. It marches on and we march on with it. Maybe Elise and I will be sitting on this dock in 10 years watching our grandchildren tiptoe into the water.

But for now we just enjoy this moment without expectation. We have no hurry and no worry. We just let the moment be.

I finish writing and slip into the water myself. I swim well out into the lake. When I turn around. From the lake looking back I see all of the faces and bodies. Some have shaped my life, some lives I shape. Children, adults, and everything in between.

05/11/2009

Time, glass gems, and kids

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Jars on TableIn my consulting work, I often encourage visual people (you know who you are) to create images, symbols, or objects that represent something important to them and place them somewhere that they will clearly be on their mind often.

I was practicing a little preaching last week.

My oldest son, Caleb, will be driving on his own in just under a month. Teaching my oldest to drive and anticipating how quickly my time with him day to day is fading, I set up a tangible reminder of the time I have left with my kids. I bought 4 glass jars and filled each jar with a different color glass gem (Caleb – blue, Josh – orange, Riley – pink, and Seth – green). Each glass gem represents one week in their lives before they go to college. [yes I am assuming they will go to college...]caleb-with-jar2

Each week I take a gem out of each jar and throw it away in the trashcan. I was looking for a clear reminder for me about how short the time was that we have as a family.

The funny thing is that I am not afraid of the passage of time. I don’t sit around wishing that it would slow. I am happy for my children to move on to new and exciting areas of responsibility and ownership of their own lives. I don’t look at people with younger children and think, “I miss those days.”josh-and-gems3

At the same time I do like markers, placeholders, and things that force me to count things. In this, my one and only life, I won’t get time with my children back. I know on the other side of eternity I will have countless hours. On this side, my time is limited and finite. I want to make the most of every week.

Someday, Elise and I will be home alone wondering where days, weeks, months, and years went. I want to look back and realize we used the time as best we could. I am sure we will be thrown some loops and things that we won’t enjoy or expect. But I hope we will look back contented that we used the time well.riley-and-seth

05/04/2009

Why I love Monday mornings (and you can too)…

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Monday represent a lot of things for a lot of people. In our culture today it seems that Mondays mean an end to something good and the beginning of something bad. Just last week I was watching people tweet and update their facebook status with: “how can it only be wednesday?” or “TGIF tomorrow!”

Don’t get me wrong: I love the weekend. I love being with my family and friends and having some downtime and watching lacrosse games and relaxing.

But what’s so wrong with the week? During the week we get to build something, create things, add value, serve other people, lead things, etc.

Monday is the promise of a weeks worth of opportunity. Monday is potential.

Now it’s time to use that potential and go do something with it.

Keep moving forward,

Greg

p.s. If you need some inspiration check this out.

04/17/2009

The Leader Free Zone

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Why some organizations don’t grow

Have you ever been in an organization that just doesn’t grow? Some organizations seem destined to stagnation which eventually leads to decline and death.

On the other hand, some organizations are full of life. Growth is second nature to them and they excel consistently year after year.

I’ve been in both and I don’t like organizations that don’t grow.

What’s the difference?

The growth or lack of growth in most organizations is directly attributable to the growth or lack of growth of it’s leaders.

Growing Leader = Growing Organization

Dying Leaders = Dying Organization

Kanon Clarity excels at helping leaders and organizations grow. For a process that will help you begin developing your leaders check out Leadership Development 101.

Email greg@kanonclarity.com or call 410.967.7906 for help in developing leaders so your organization can grow.

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